Motherhood is a life-changing journey that starts long before a baby is born. It’s a unique transformation known as matrescence, and it’s a process that’s as physical, emotional, and mental as adolescence—except with its own special set of challenges and rewards. Coined by anthropologist Dana Raphael back in 1973, matrescence describes the biopsychosocial shifts a woman experiences as she becomes a mother.
This journey isn’t just about the physical changes a woman goes through—it’s also about navigating a whirlwind of emotions. Pregnant women can feel everything from joy to fear, and even moments of ambivalence. The dreamy, idealized version of motherhood can sometimes clash with the reality of day-to-day life. It’s not uncommon for new mothers to feel pressure to be perfect, or even experience guilt when they don’t meet those high expectations. Some may reflect on their own childhoods, wondering whether they should repeat or do things differently from what they experienced growing up.
The shift into motherhood isn’t just mental—it’s biological, too. Many new moms experience what’s commonly called “mom brain,” a state that involves forgetfulness and moments where focus seems elusive. These changes are part of the body’s natural adjustments during this time, including fluctuations in hormones, sleep deprivation, and even changes to the brain itself. For a while, the brain’s gray matter may actually shrink, but don’t worry—this process may be a type of "synaptic pruning," and it’s the brain’s way of fine-tuning itself to meet the demands of motherhood.
Interestingly, research suggests that this "mom brain" phenomenon actually comes with some perks. Studies show that pregnant women and new moms have an enhanced ability to read emotions, recognize faces, and notice subtle changes in things like color, sounds and scent. It’s as if nature is helping moms stay extra alert to their baby’s needs, strengthening the bond between them while ensuring safety.
While some of these changes can feel a bit overwhelming at first, they’re not permanent. In fact, studies show that the mental workout that comes with raising children can actually boost brain health over time. Research from Yale University even suggests that parents who actively engage with their kids have quicker response times and sharper visual memories. Plus, the more children someone raises, the younger their brain seems to appear. So, while the changes of matrescence can feel intense, they come with long-term benefits for brain health and cognitive resilience.
Being compassionate to ourselves during this time of transition is essential. Embracing these changes, taking care of ourselves, and reaching out to family and friends for support can help new moms adjust. As hormone levels settle and sleep improves, the fog often clears, and the clarity and focus return.
What’s also interesting is that these brain changes aren’t just for mothers—they affect fathers and non-biological parents, too. Research has shown that hormone changes like shifts in testosterone and cortisol influence how involved parents become with their child. One study even discovered that highly engaged fathers have increased brain activity in areas responsible for instinct, decision-making, and stress responses. It just goes to show that parenting is a powerful experience for everyone involved.
The power of the "mom brain" is more remarkable than we ever realized, highlighting the incredible flexibility and adaptability of the brain during this transformative time. In the end, motherhood doesn’t just change your body—it changes your brain, making you more sensitive, more intuitive, and better equipped for the beautiful adventure that lies ahead.
Check out these links and articles for more information on how our bodies change through parenting:
Mommy Brain: discover the amazing power of the maternal brain by Jodi Pawluski
Mother Brain: How Neuroscience is rewriting the story of parenthood by Chelsea Conaboy
Matrescence: lifetime impact or motherhood on cognition and the brain. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, vol.27, Issue 10, October 2023, Pages 974
If you are seeking support through this transition or with any aspect of your parenting journey book an appointment with Amy.
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